Why I Deleted My Facebook Account

meandhannahLast month, I decided to delete my Facebook account for good. To some it probably seems like I committed blog suicide, but I know closing my account was the best thing for me.  I haven’t looked back and I have no regrets in closing my account.

Facebook gives you a 2-week period before they permanently delete your account. During the 2-week period, you should not log in, because if you do log in, your account is reactivated. I made the mistake of logging in when I tried deleting my account a few times before and I finally realized that I was wasting a lot of my time on Facebook; time I could not get back.

Well, I finally had the discipline to not log in during the 2-week period and I am living without a Facebook account. Living without Facebook is doable and I am doing it.

Reasons Why I Deleted My Facebook Account

Here are a few of the reasons why I deleted my Facebook account:

1. Big Distraction. I had a Facebook page for this blog and I would login to update the page, but I would find myself on my personal page getting caught up in what other people were sharing. Before I knew it, 5-minutes had turned into 30-minutes to an hour.

2. Time Waster. I would often log on to Facebook to fill my time. Again time went by so fast, I had to ask myself, “Where did the time go and how in the world have I spent this much time on Facebook?” The time I wasted on Facebook could have been spent writing, promoting blog posts, commenting on other blogs, networking or enjoying family, real friends and life.

3. Friends Caused Me to Feel Bad. Friends would cause me to feel bad about things, especially when they were constantly posting about what their child was doing (tests, grades, college). I eventually blocked those friends from my feed.  It almost seemed to me at times that some of my friends were bragging about every aspect of their lives and to be honest, I could not care less.

4. Privacy. The longer I had an account the more I learned that Facebook is not so private as I thought. That’s all I will say about that.

5. Family Issues. Some of my family would share things on Facebook that I thought should have been kept off Facebook and dealt with behind the scenes. Most of the time when I would see these posts, I felt like I was being nosy. In real life, I would have never known any of the issues that family members were having.

6. Facebook Page. Even though my Facebook page was growing, I had very little interaction. Maybe I could have stepped up my game and engaged the members of the page more, but I did not have that kind of time. Plus, at times when I tried, it was if I was wasting my time. In order for me to get reasonable interaction, I would need to post every chance I got. I finally realized that it was not worth it. With little interaction and traffic from Facebook to my blog, I can do without a Facebook page.

7. Spend time on a Few Social Media Sites. After reading Leo Babauta’s article Simply the Internet, I decided to focus on 3 social media networking sites.  I do not spend a lot of time on these sites.  Facebook was not on my list, because it sucked up too much of my time as well as sapped my mental energy. These days, I use Twitter, Google Plus and You Tube.

8. Loss of Real Communication. People would contact me to do them a favor by sending me messages on Facebook.  These are people that I know personally.  What happened to picking up the telephone and chatting with the person or discussing things over lunch?  We need to get back to the old way of communicating.

9. Peace of Mind. My mind feels at peace and it is clutter free. Since I deleted my Facebook account, I write more and use my time wisely. I spend more time with my family and less time on the computer. Which means that I am not bombarded with the constant flow of information and it feels good.

Wrap Up

Even though I am not on Facebook, I do not feel I am missing anything. The best thing about scaling back my social media sites, is that I have more time.

Time is valuable and we can never go back to retrieve time.  Time waits for no one.

You can catch me on:

Twitter:  @evelyn_parham

Google Plus:  @Evelyn Parham

You Tube:  @EvelynPrather.

Until next time….

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27 Comments Why I Deleted My Facebook Account

  1. Michelle

    I understand your reasons and can relate. I used to think about deleting my page because of little interaction. It took me 2 years to get interaction and now it’s running very smoothly.

    I don’t get caught up on FB for 1 reason and I think this may save someone else from deleting their accounts.

    For bus. building purposes, auto post and reply on your mobile during down times (for me it’s commuting – I have 2 hours and can post a lot during that time). If you must use a computer set a time limit and use a timer. It really does work.

    I do the same with Twitter and Instagram. I post with my phone or tablet while commuting. Very rarely do I get on my computer. If I do, it’s only for a few during the weekend.

    The constant auto-posting had finally gotten people’s attention. I schedule 5-6 short posts a day. by end of day I’m getting nice interaction.

    As far as privacy, you can totally make your account private. Simple. Don’t put anything on your account (including in your personal info), that you don’t want someone else to know. Heck put a fake phone #. Email is not so much of a big deal either. Use your blog email address.

    I wish you hadn’t deleted your account but hey you gotta do what you gotta do.

    1. Evelyn Parham

      Hey Michelle,

      Thanks for stopping by and commenting!

      I do a lot of auto-posting on Twitter and when I was on Facebook, I started out auto-posting and then I stopped. I would manually share links and I didn’t do it for every post. Phones and tablets are very convenient and is great to use while on the go.

      Thanks for sharing your tips. You definitely have time management under control.

      Have a great week! ;)

  2. Dana

    I can totally relate to this. I JUST deactivated my FB account today…for many of the same reasons you posted here. I actually feel free!
    Have you been finding it easy to build your blog minus one big social network since this post?
    Dana recently posted..Dealing With ChallengesMy Profile

    1. Evelyn Parham

      Hi Dana,

      Well, when I first started blogging, I didn’t have an FB account for blogging and didn’t really get into the fan page stuff until I had been blogging for probably 6 months to a year. I really can’t remember how long it was, but I think I did better then, not having a FB account for blogging than I did when I had an activated account. I think I did the Network Blogs via FB, but that’s about all the promotion that I did, and I had no fan page at the beginning of starting my blog.

      I really haven’t checked it all that much. As far as shares and stuff like that, it is somewhat low, but again, I don’t check it all that often. I guess I’m bad about that. But I use Twitter, Google Plus, StumbleUpon and You Tube and these sites help drive some traffic to my site. I’ll have to take a look at Google Analytics to really see how things are going.

      If I would comment on other blogs like I used to, things would be even better, but I have not had a lot of time to do that as much as I would like to. But I do find that commenting on other blogs, helps too.

      To answer your question, I don’t think that not being on FB really makes a difference for me. I had a pretty good following, but very few people participated/engaged with me on my fan page. I always got more traffic from Twitter and other sites, with FB being on the low side. These days, I like Twitter and always have.

      I was afraid that after closing my FB account that my blog would suffer, but I honestly believe that if we continue to put out good and helpful content the traffic will come and people will find us.

      *I had to ask myself, what did the most popular bloggers do when there was no facebook? (content) And this is what keeps me going.

      Thanks for stopping by and commenting!

      Take care,

      Evelyn

  3. Dan

    Indeed, facebook can be a big distraction and once you log in, chances are that you are going to spend a lot of time on it. Among other reasons, this enough should be a signal of alarm. If you can’t control yourself, you should definitely close it.

  4. Shyamal

    Hi, Evelyn Parham.
    I read your post where you tell that facebook browsing is time consuming. I appreciate you that it is right decision to delete facebook account. But if you want to do business then it will be necessary. So only in this field it is most important.

    Sometimes i feel pain for facebook as a time wasting. But nothing to do. This is my facebook account and these are my websites Computer Tips & Hobby Electronics. So,Facebook is very important for website business.

  5. Bryan Thompson

    Hi Evelyn, I understand about the Facebook account. I thought I hadn’t seen an update from you in a while. It can DEFINITELY be a time waster and it usually doesn’t serve uses of productivity. Even the social media clout that helps business and blogging doesn’t seem to make much difference on Facebook.

    1. Evelyn Parham

      Hey Bryan!

      Good to see you!

      Yeah, I know many people stress the importance of using FB for business and blogging, but I have to agree, it really doesn’t make much difference.

      Thanks for chiming in and sharing!

      Have a great weekend!

      Evelyn

  6. Jo

    Thanks for sharing this great post Evelyn. I’m tempted many times to delete my FB page. It sure is a time waster. I mainly keep FB for my blog but honestly, since the new FB updates I get very little traffic from FB. It is really hard trying to get interaction on my blog FB page, you’re right, you need to constantly post in order to keep the interaction going on FB and it is not giving me the traffic/interest I used to get from FB..

    I find out more things than I really need to know about people on FB. Some things should be kept outside FB.

  7. Mitch Mitchell

    Well, that was a major step! Actually, I understand parts of what you’ve written here, more than I might want to own up to. Mainly the time killing portion, although I don’t really spend tons of time there. But I have wondered how much time I do kill on social media promoting myself instead of working in other ways.

    That being said I’m not doing it. What’s funny about connecting with my relatives there is that I have never really known any of them before the last couple of years so it’s kind of fascinating to actually get to meet them. I like the two games I do play, both based off Scrabble. And I enjoy the pictures; always love lots of pictures. I get a lot of enjoyment out of it and frankly, I don’t get a lot of enjoyment out of many other things these days.

    Good for you in taking a step forward for yourself.

    1. Evelyn Parham

      Hey Mitch,

      I can understand why you don’t want to do it. It wasn’t an easy step to take.

      I actually enjoyed what you shared on FB. Your food photos were pretty cool. :)

      As for relatives, that’s cool that you connected with relatives that you never really known. I never really played any games, but I do like Scrabble. I enjoyed the pictures too. I think that is what I enjoyed the most.

      Thanks for stopping by and sharing!

      Evelyn

    1. Evelyn Parham

      Hi King!

      I think it is very rare for anyone to delete his/her FB account, but it’s just one of those things. I can understand how it has helped you with traffic to your site. It is a good source of traffic.

      Welcome to my blog and thanks for stopping by!

      Evelyn

  8. Carolyn Akens

    I totally agree with everything you said and some of those things apply to me. Evelyn, you are a pioneer on so many levels and I respect and love that about you. While some of us complain, you forge ahead, yet consistently instilling your knowledge. THANK YOU! :-)

  9. Philip Verghese 'Ariel'

    Hi Evelyn,
    Its really good to be here again after a bit gap,
    Hope everything is well with you, some time back there was some problem in posting the comment, i think thats fixed it now, hope this will reach safely to your place
    Yes, these days I am also thinking this was and i tremendously reduced my spending time at fb, of course its good media to promote your blog post, but i am sure as you said its a mere time consuming thing
    many of my friends post their blog details there and now i am requesting them to post one pvt mail to me so that my attention will get soon since i seldom visit fb and even check mail there
    Have a good time and i appreciate you for the good decision.
    Phil

    1. Evelyn Parham

      Hey Philip!

      It’s good to see you here again!

      Thanks for sharing. Getting the post via email is a good idea, especially, since Google will be doing away with the Google Reader in July.

      Have a great week and thanks for stopping by!

      Evelyn

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