Your life is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. – Steve Jobs
Many of us live life through the eyes of other people. Always trying to project a certain reputation, even when it is not really who we authentically are. Some of you are probably saying, “I have never done that.” Maybe you have not, but there are many people who worry about what others think of them and they fear rejection.
Lisa Irby, wrote post asking “What do you do when rejection online goes too far?” The points that Lisa shared can also be applied to life off-line. This topic made for some good discussion.
Many people are afraid to try new things or go a different route, because they fear what could happen. Always looking on the bad side of things and predicting the worse. I have to admit, I was that person, but the older I get the more courage and boldness I have.
I was known as the “quiet girl” and I never spoke out on much of anything, fear of rejection and what others thought loomed over me. I just went along with the crowd and I dare not rock the boat. But something changed. I grew into me and grew up!
As the years went by, I got wiser. I started speaking out and doing things that I would have never done. Now I let people talk and make their recommendations on what they think, but who knows you better than you? I take the advice that is helpful and beneficial as it relates to me and leave the rest.
What It Takes to Be You
- Have no fear
- Accept your unique self
- Allow your gifts and talents to blossom and share this with others
- Forget about what you think others will say and think and just do it
- Dare to travel a different direction and go where no one has gone
- Make your decisions and stand firm (do not waver)
- Courage to live your passion
Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life; define yourself. – Harvey Fierstein
Always remember that you cannot please all the people all the time, so don’t stress trying. It’s the healthy way!