Being and Staying True to Yourself

happy-woman-looking-forwardJust because someone says that a certain food is good for you doesn’t mean that you have to buy it and start eating it.  Are you true to yourself or do you follow the crowd?

The articles that I publish on Mondays are meant to inspire and motivate you.  These are posts that get you thinking and reflecting on things going on within you and in your life.

A Short Story

When I was a teenager, I wanted to fit in.  Everything the other classmates were doing, I wanted to do it too.  If everyone was wearing a certain kind of shoe or dressed a certain way, I wanted to do the same.

There came a time in my high school years, when I did not care if I dressed like the other classmates.  I was in my senior year when I finally realized that it was okay for me to be me. People like you more when you are your genuine self.  I liked being myself and standing out from the rest.

It is the differences that we have that make the world what it is.  If everyone looked the same and did the same things, then it would be a very boring world.

As I ventured off to college, I did my own thing and I did not get caught up in being like others.  Even though I joined a sorority, I did not let that define who I was and how I related to my other friends who where not a member of a sorority or a fraternity.

Fast forward to today.  There are many things that I do that other people do not do.  Sometimes people will boldly share what they think I should and should not do.

I am a good listener, but I always do what I know is best for me and not what the other person thinks I should do.

If I had followed other people’s recommendations and suggestions, I would not be where I am today.

A Message To You

If you are on a path that you know is right for you, do not allow anyone to come in and get you off the path that you are traveling.

You must decide within yourself that you will not allow anyone or anything to have control over the decisions that you make for yourself.

If you want to eat a plant-based diet, go for it.  There will be naysayers and people who will think that you have lost your mind, but continue traveling on the path and get with those people who are supportive of what you are doing.

If you are on a weight loss journey, go for it.  There will be those who will not be supportive in your efforts of losing weight, but again, get with those who are supportive of you and believe in what you are doing.

Never allow other people to have control over the choices you make for yourself.  When you start allowing others to have control, then you are no longer living for yourself, but for others.

Always be true to yourself, never follow the crowd.  Be a trailblazer!

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Evelyn Parham started this site in 2010. She enjoys writing, reading, and dabbling in photography and video editing. Learn more about her here.

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  1. Kelly says:

    Evelyn, this post struck such a chord with me. When I was younger I didn’t fit in and I desperately wanted to be liked. I was seeking validation from others. It was hard for me to make friends.

    Now I have learned that validation has to come from myself, not others. I have a good job, I work out, I’m well read and well traveled. I don’t need anyone to validate me and I don’t seek it. It’s funny but now I have more friends than I have time for!

    • Hi Kelly,

      Exactly! Validation somes from within.

      See what we can do when we take the focus off being validated by others. Wow, thanks for sharing you experience with us, Kelly!

  2. msfullroller says:

    Loved this post Evelyn! I firmly believe this is the root cause of the psychological ills of human existence which lead to dis-ease in the body.

  3. Shitij says:

    Hi Evelyn
    Inspirational post!!
    I personally believe that if one has a strong ground and values then one should believe only oneself and no one else…

  4. Laxmi says:

    Hello Evelyn,

    “Be Yourself” This is what exactly people should realize. Instead of giving importance to others words, they should give importance to themselves and enjoy their uniqueness.


  5. Lawdy, try being your own person in high school with a twin who gets confused with you all the time. Mwah ha haa What is interesting is to reflect on the balance between being unique and authentic, and abiding by society’s norms.

    • Hey Kymberly!

      You and Alexandra must have had a time in high school.

      Having balance is definitely something to keep in mind.

      Thanks for chiming in and giving me something to think about. 😉

  6. Karielyn says:

    Hi Evelyn! Just wanted to let you know how your article was perfect timing for me today. I had just sat down (in frustration over a dilemma about being true to one’s self!) to check my mail on my phone and there was your article. Perfect. Perfect. Perfect. That was the right message at the right time. 🙂

  7. Evelyn, great article! Too many people are followers and not many leaders. One day I hope people will learn to NEVER allow anyone to “think” for them. We should do our own due diligence about something we’re interested in and not play follow the leader. Just because someone tells you it raining doesn’t mean it is especially when the two of you are standing in the same sun surrounded by a beautiful blue sky!

    Blessings to you, Evelyn!

    • Hi Ms. Carolyn Akens,


      Love your example about being surrounded by a beautiful sky and being told that it is raining. I know this goes deeper than weather and I get it. 🙂

      I think some people are afraid to not follow someone, but there comes a time, when you have to just be the leader of yourself (think for yourself). Who knows you better than you do?

      Thanks for stopping by!


  8. Aqiyl Henry says:

    I definitely agree with “wisdom,” which works hand in hand with patience. 🙂

  9. Aqiyl Henry says:

    Great article Evelyn. I think it is important to listen to and analyze what other people do and say to always try to find ways to improve, but it is never a good thing to follow people blindly. We have to be strong and patient with ourselves to analyze the world and to then take what can improve us, and make it our own. Never be afraid to be different.

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