Why I Kissed Facebook Good-Bye

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Update:  I opened a new Facebook account for marketing myself and this website in December 2015.  In March  2016, I decided to delete Facebook again, but before deleting Facebook completely, I checked Google Analytics.  It turns out that Facebook is the top referring social site for traffic to my website, followed by Twitter and then YouTube.  Guess, I’ll stick with it. (March 2016)


 

A few months ago I shared with you that I deactivated my Facebook account and I promised that I would tell you why I left Facebook.  The deactivation eventually became a deletion.

I have deleted Facebook accounts in the past, but this time, was different. It was different because I knew I did the right thing and that I would not look back.  Today, I share why I kissed Facebook good-bye.

Side note:  I was reluctant to publish this post, but I finally clicked the publish button.

Facebook Served No Purpose (Website/Business)

I created content, paid for followers to see my posts (not much, because I am cheap), designed my cover, and scheduled automated posts via Buffer at the best times based on my Facebook stats.

Why invest time in something that does not give me anything in return? Oh, it gives me something in return, lost time that I never get back. I checked my analytics/stats before pulling the plug on Facebook, they said, “Girl, bye!”

The traffic coming from Facebook was the saddest thing ever. Engagement and interaction were often low to non-existent. The same people would always like and sometimes comment on status updates.

I also had two people join my mailing list via my Facebook Page (cool). I appreciate those who supported, engaged and interacted with me on Facebook.

The social media gurus say, “Facebook is good for website/business promotion.” I think Facebook is a good thing, but for some websites/businesses it is not the best social  media network. Some of us need to take the promotion to the physical streets.

I have made more connections by simply talking to people when I am out running errands and by word of mouth. The old school way of promoting yourself is still alive and well.

Facebook for Personal Use

Let’s switch to the personal side of Facebook because the personal side affected the mind, body and spirit.  I cannot tell you how many times I clicked the Facebook app on my phone.

I eventually deleted the Facebook app off my phone, only to re-install it.  I also logged on to Facebook from my personal computer. I finally realized that I had to let go of Facebook, especially if I wanted to have a healthy mind, body and spirit.

Why I finally said good-bye to Facebook

  • It was distracting –  Scrolling down the news feed got me caught up in everything and everybody. What started out as a quick Facebook check, would end up lasting for 30-minutes to an hour. I was easily distracted, which led wasted time.
  • I became a nosy person –  I am not a nosy person, I actually do not care about what other people do. But for some reason, I became nosy and I felt like I had to know everything. It eventually became too much for me and I do not need to know everything.  Some things are best left unsaid.
  • It took me on an emotional roller coaster ride – The emotional roller coaster ride  with children, religion, politics and racial issues. I felt bad after reading about the accomplishments of children, who function normally. I was comparing my child to those children, which is something I should never do, but it I did it.  Arguing and debating about religion, politics and racial issues took me for a ride too. “Ain’t nobody got time for that!”
  • People I know personally rarely communicated with me.  I do not understand this, especially since they befriended me first. People I know personally rarely communicated with me, but people I did not know personally communicated with me and supported me the most.

Final Words

Sometimes you have to let go of what no longer serves you. Facebook did more harm to me than good. It bothered my mind and spirit, which sometimes brought a certain level of stress.

It took courage for me to let go of Facebook, because it is a popular social media site.  How would I ever stay connected and in the know?  What I have learned from this experience is that those who want to stay connected with me will stay connected, regardless if I am on Facebook or not.

I realize that there are people who enjoy using Facebook and it benefits them immensely.  If Facebook works for you, then keep using it.

But as for me, I kiss Facebook good-bye and I am not looking back.

Until next time…

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Evelyn Parham started this site in 2010. She enjoys writing, reading, and dabbling in photography and video editing. Learn more about her here.

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  1. Good for you. Only you know what’s best for your health. I stopped trying to keep up with Pinterest and a few other sites for the exact same reasons. Now I just use the ones I actually enjoy. And those perfect kids on FB? Forget about it – line them all up and you’d still prefer yours.

  2. Well of course you know you’re nothing but trouble… oh wait, that’s those other people. 🙂 I understand why you pulled away and I applaud you for it.

    Course, I won’t be going anywhere, but I do keep wondering why I’m pushing my business page when I can’t seem to figure out a way to get it to 400 members, and I can’t seem to drive them to my websites or videos. Maybe I’m just being stubborn; gotta think about that one a bit more…

    • Hey Mitch, I know you understand!

      It’s hard to get the business page noticed and drive traffic to back to a website. It didn’t use to be that way now it is harder than ever. You’ll have to shell out money to FB and/or pay for likes and you are still not guaranteed to reach the goal you want. Either way, you’ll figure it out. Best wishes! 🙂

  3. Evelyn, great post! I agree with everything you said and thank you for speaking your truth! I am almost there.

  4. Nicole says:

    I could not agree more with you! I have deleted my Facebook a year ago after leaving my other job. To realize they were not friends. It’s a bunch a people that gossip about what others are doing. What if you don’t have money to pay your bills and you’re stuck in a low paying job. It’s not that I’m jealous it’s the truth I didn’t have money to take lavish vacations that others are doing. It can really be a big waste of our lives. We only have one chance at this life. Thank you for the an amazing story you have put together.

    • Hi Nicole,

      Thank you for leaving a comment and for sharing your Facebook experience. It (Facebook) is a place where it is easy to fall in to the trap of comparing our lives to others and oftentimes, we end up feeling bad about our lives because we don’t measure up. Feeling bad messes with the health of the mind, body and the spirit and since leaving Facebook, I am happier and focused on things that matter the most.

      I’m so happy that you like this post and I look forward to chatting with you soon.

      Blessings,
      Evelyn

  5. Trinity says:

    It is so interesting how we can become so attached to things that no longer serve us. I often struggle in this area – it can be so difficult. Thanks for sharing your decision to say “Goodbye to Facebook”. I appreciate your honesty. Take care!

    • Hey Trinity,
      As I get older, I realize that it is okay to let go, even when it is difficult. Our blessings and lessons come in following what we know is best and feel in our hearts.

      Thanks for stopping by!
      Blessings,

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