Does being friendly get you, friends?
Yes and no.
Be friendly to everyone. Those who deserve it the least need it the most.” ~ Bo Bennett
I am a friendly person online and offline, but it doesn’t always lead to meaningful friendships.
Don’t stop being you.
Being friendly helps with making friends, but it doesn’t guarantee you’ll keep those friends.
I discovered that friendships develop the same way no matter where and how you meet (offline/online).
Be Wise When Making Friends
The way I learn if a person wants friendship is if they show interest in getting to know me.
People show you what they want, but it is up you to get the message.
If they are genuinely interested in being a friend, then they will talk to you, give you a call, or meet you.
Don’t Force Friendship
Be friendly, but don’t impose on anyone. There is a scripture that says, to have friends you must show yourself friendly. (Proverbs 18:24)
I can’t tell you how many times, I am friendly and try pursuing a friendship, only to have that person ignore me.
Yes, it happens.
It doesn’t take long for me to realize they don’t want a friendship. And guess what I do? I leave them alone.
Don’t Let Anyone Take Advantage of You
If you have friends who only reach out to you when they need you to do something for them, then they are not the friend for you.
If you have one true friend you have more than your share.” ~ Thomas Fuller
One person cannot carry a friendship. Eventually, you’ll get tired of doing it.
If we pay attention to the potential friend’s actions in the beginning stages of friendship, then we will avoid being used.
Final Words
Being friendly is okay, but don’t worry about getting friends.
Most of the friends I have, which are not many, happened organically.
Don’t try to get friends, let it happen naturally. You keep being friendly.
You’ll see that when friendships develop naturally, they are more meaningful and they last.
Be courteous to all, but intimate with few, and let those few be well tried before you give them your confidence.” ~ George Washington
Until next time.
Take care of you.
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