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Just surrender...

Everyone expects good things to happen in life, but somewhere along life’s journey, bad things happen.  I have come to realize that I can’t control everything, no matter how hard I try.

Most people think I am strong and that nothing phases me, but little do they know, I have moments when tears flow, I borrow someone’s ear, or I am still and quiet.

There are some things you can control and then there some things beyond your control.  But there is one thing that remains constant that you can change and control and that one thing is you.  You can change the way to react to anything that happens in your life.

Sometimes these things can make you or break you.  You want these life experiences to make you a stronger, wiser and a better person.  Don’t ever let it break you, you break it!

When the pressures of life get you down and tosses you to and fro.  Always remember that some things are simply not in your hands and that you can’t control everything.

Instead, remember to:

1.  Pray

2.  Breathe

3.  Talk it out.

4.  Let the tears flow when they come

5.  Focus on the positive

4.  Accept it and make the best of it

5.  Never give up.

Whenever you find yourself in a situation in life that you can’t control no matter how hard to you try, just surrender!

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19 thoughts on “No need to control everything, just surrender

  1. You know, I use to think that things are out of my control, but then I discovered the 11 Laws of the Universe. It helped me change my belief system.
    One of the things I never knew before was that there is no such thing as Good and Bad. There is only One power, the power of Good and the power of positive thinking, in which we are completely in control of.
    The power of negativity is only an illusion, the only way to fight it is to be the gate keeper of your mind, the more we protect our mind from those bad thoughts the more they fade. And then the only power that is left is Good or the power of God.

    • Positive thinking is always good. It helps us focus on those things that are good and leaves little to no room for thinking negative.

      Thanks for sharing!

  2. Great post Evelyn! So many thing happen to us n our lives that do not go according to OUR plan, but that are there so that we can learn from! If we ca turn a stumbling block into a stepping stone instead! Loved it!

    • Hi Rusty,

      Wow, I love it!! “turn a stumbling block into a stepping stone instead.” I am learning that everything we ever go through happens so we can learn lessons. Thinking like this makes it so easy for us to not get stuck in the ‘why me’ syndrome.

      Thanks for stopping by!


  3. Evelyn,

    What a timely post, I am going through my own chaotic time and I have just realized that surrendering to something I do not have control over is the best thing to do. Even if that means, taking a time off from other things.

    I always thought you are wonder woman, as you do it all so well.


    • Hi Preeti,

      I am so happy you stopped by! 🙂

      You have the right idea to take time off from other things. I do that a lot and then after I’ve taken a break, I return refreshed with a clearer mind. Keen focus too!

      I hope all goes well for you and that you make through this time in your life. Remember trouble, or chaos doesn’t last always. Keep that in mind and it will make things so much easier. And of course if you can’t control the situation, just leave it be, surrender.

      Wow, me a wonder woman. That makes two of us! 😉

      Have a wonderful day and many blessings to you, always!


  4. Great words of wisdom. I am trying – no! I am remaining positive and patient during my struggles and journey. I am graduating next month with my Masters in Education Media Design and Technology. It is a new career change for and I have no idea what jobs to apply for. I want to move from Daytona Beach and have no idea where to.

    But what I do know is that I won’t quit on me or stop believing that my Creator has my back. I surrender it all. Everything.

    Thank you not by coincidence that I pass this way today.



    • Hi Elaine,

      Thank you!

      Remember, in all your ways acknowledge him (God) and he will direct your path. Proverbs 3

      Don’t worry so much about those things you don’t have control over. Just keep moving and never give up. You know He has your back! 😉

      Welcome to my blog, and I am glad you took the time to share a part of yourself with us.

      Take care,


  5. Oh Evelyn,

    I’m sooo going to share this on Google+, maybe mom son will read it twice! This is wonderful advice and total control is something us “moms” have to keep in check when our kids have issues.

    Thanks for the reminder and checklist.

    • Hi Kathy,

      Wow, thank you! 😉

      I have to remind myself everyday, that some things will be what as they are no matter how hard I try. As they say, “It is what it is.”

      Thanks for stopping by!

  6. Hi Evelyn! Thank you for this heartfelt post.

    I am learning to surrender in the area of a clean house. LOL Sounds so silly, but there are times where I look around and want to pass out because I cannot keep up with everything. And then I just surrender.

    One day, my son will be old enough to help. 🙂

    • Hi Tia,

      I don’t think it’s silly at all. I have those times too and sometimes, I just leave things be (surrender). We can’t do it all, even mommies need to surrender sometimes. 😉

      Thanks for stopping by!

  7. Evelyn, another great post! When we learn how to simply let go and let God it truly makes our life easier. We need to learn how to have more me time so when trouble comes we know how to handle it and not become stressed out. We are more than conquerors and once we realize the greatness in us we can accomplish anything! That’s when everything will truly be alright!

    • Hey Ms. Carolyn,

      Thank you!

      “Let go and let God.” This is so true!

      You’re so right about the me time. I haven’t been having too much me time and I can feel it.

      I appreciate your words of wisdom. 😉

  8. TrafficColeman says:

    We all have a braekin point when it’s just too much..but you must be clam and think about that “it could’ve been worse”

    From my favorite artist Lyfe Jennings

    “Black Seo Guy “Signing Off”

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