dare to be different


Today, I’m sharing my thoughts about being different and standing out in a crowded space. I know it’s not a health-related topic, but I won’t always talk about healthy living topics.

These days, I share more about motivation and inspiration, and I decided I will write about whatever I want because I have to be me. You’ll learn more after reading further in this post.

This week, Jeff Goins published a blog post and podcast, sharing his thoughts about being successful (innovative) while being different. Jeff is an accomplished writer and author, and I started following him a few months ago.

Jeff shared many golden nuggets in his podcast, but after listening to his 53-minute podcast, I took to the keyboard to write.


Have you ever allowed people or things to affect your decisions? I think each of us has experienced doing this some time in our lives.

You thought, if they are doing it and it works for them, I’ll give it a try. You try it and learn that it doesn’t work for you. When you know what to do, nothing or no one can shake you.

Ride in Your Lane

I love sharing stories, and I promise to keep this story short and to the point.

I started this blog in 2010, and I’ve seen many trends come and go with blogging, social media and doing business online.

I was reluctant to embrace social media, mostly because I didn’t understand how I needed to use it.

I even deleted a few accounts more than one time, but that’s not happening any time soon.

Doing What You See Others Doing

I observed what I saw others doing and I also did what some of my online buddies recommended.

I got disappointed and wanted to throw my hands up and walk away from everything.

I allowed situations and people to shake me because I didn’t know what to do.

However, today my situation is different because I know what to do.

Know WHAT to do

Invest in Learning What to Do

I invested in learning what to do, and now I am empowered and more confident than I’ve ever been.

People can compliment you all day long, but if you are not sure of yourself, then you won’t go anywhere.

Why I’m Telling You This

I know my story has nothing to do with living a healthy lifestyle, but I share this story because I want you to know that it’s okay to hire someone to help you.

I got tired of running on the hamster wheel. No more going in circles because nothing or no one can shake me.

Living a Healthy Lifestyle

There’s a lot of lifestyle information online these, and it can be confusing about what to eat and what not to eat.

And I’m just scratching the surface because there’s a lot of information to make a person give up with this lifestyle stuff.

That’s why it is imperative that you work with someone who can help you navigate through the sea of information.

Don’t Be Afraid to Hire Someone to Show you the Ropes

I used to be reluctant about hiring anyone for help because of past experiences.

But before you decide to work with anyone, follow them, learn how they work and how they can help you, pay attention to the information they share and get to know them.

Hiring someone to help you can be a life changing experience, just like it was for me.

Final Words

You must be willing to step outside the box and do things a little bit different.

You’ll walk confidently knowing that because you know what to do, nothing or no one can shake you.

Be confident in yourself and never be afraid to go against the grain.

Until next time.


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Evelyn Parham Coach

Is there ever a time when you are alone? Some of you may answer yes, but is there ever a time when you are by yourself; alone with your thoughts? I’ll take a wild guess and answer, “No.” Learn why solitude is essential now more than ever.

I’m Reading Digital Minimalism

I love reading, and I usually read more than one book at a time, and Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport is one of the books I am currently reading.

Dr. Cal talks about solitude, and its almost non-existent today, which is sad.

I remember before smartphones and social media came on the scene I had more time with my thoughts. I had more clarity back then and focus.

Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport
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What is Solitude?

Solitude is the state of being alone without being lonely and can lead to self-awareness. (Psychology Today)

Why is Solitude Essential

We live in the information age with access to a hand-held computer 24-7.

Many of us spend hours on our smartphones or other devices consuming information in some form or another.

The mind is always wired because constant connection to devices. Afraid we’ll miss out on the latest happenings, I guess?

Here’s why you need solitude in your life.

1. Time alone with your thoughts. Do you have any ideas of your own? I ask because, in today’s information age, we consume an enormous amount of content. Moreover, if the mind is filled with other people’s stuff, there’s no room for your thoughts.

2. Achieve clarity. Sometimes you have to be still to have a clear vision about the direction in which you want to go in life. It’s impossible to have clarity when you don’t take time for solitude.

3. Restore your mind. Data dumping is what I like to call mind restoration. Dumping data or information from your mind is like taking out the trash so that you can keep peace within. You don’t want your mind filled with junk, because when your mind is wired, it eventually impacts your overall health and well-being.

Just thinking

4. Restore your body. When your mind is wired, and it never gets a break, then it will affect your body. Not clearing your mind or data can cause you to have a lot of restless nights. Getting poor quality sleep messes with many processes in the body. Example, if you’re trying to lose weight and not getting quality sleep, weight loss will be a slow-go for you.

5. Renew your spirit. You could be down in your spirit because of what you have seen or heard. When you don’t have times of solitude, whatever’s going on can affect your mood. That’s why it’s important that you renew your mind by having times of being alone.

6. Become more self-aware. Each of us has a level of self-awareness; however, if you’re not having moments of solitude, you may not be as aware of what’s going on with you. Being consumed with other stuff takes the focus off of you, and therefore you don’t pay attention to yourself.

7. Have peace. When you don’t have peace, you’re disturbed, on edge, and not calm. You can be stressed without ever realizing it because your level of self-awareness is not like it should be. Solitude is a peaceful act.

Final Words

Take time for solitude because it has lots of benefits.  Solitude is a way of managing stress.

If you never, ever take time to sit still in quietness, your mind will be wired to some level.

Humans are not meant to be wired all the time. We function best after relaxation and rejuvenation.

Make solitude something you regularly do. If you don’t do it for yourself, who will?

Until next time.

Take care.

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