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11 Important Life Lessons

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Today, I will accept an invitation I received from a fellow blogger Abubakar Jamil, on a topic that is dear to me:  life lessons. I have learned many life lessons, but these are by far the life lessons that have had the greatest impact on my life.  Thank you, Abubakar for the invitation!

1.  You are what you eat.  Diet and health are related.

Bad diet = bad health

Good diet = good health

2.  If you want to know the answers to certain questions that you have, find the answers for yourself.  Never take anyone’s word.  You have a brain and can do research like the next person.

3.  You are not defined by where you come from, but more by where you are going.

Sidenote: I didn’t come from the best family circumstances, but I didn’t let that stop me from reaching my goals.  As a matter of fact, I pushed even harder and worked harder to have a better life for myself.

See my article about 31 Things You Probably Didn’t Know About Evelyn and then you will understand what I mean.

4.  Things that happen in your life that were not in your plan or out of your control, is not always your fault.  Some things just happen, for a reason and a purpose.  You may not understand the whys and the hows at this present time, but by and by you will understand.

5.  Everyone who smiles and grins in your face is not always your friend  (quote from my mother).  Look at the person’s actions and you will always have your answer.

Sidenote: If someone always wants you to do things for them and they never offer to help you with anything, then you will know the real motive.

6.  Listen more and talk less.  You can learn a lot about a person, just by watching and listening.

Sidenote: People will usually tell you and show you who they are, be very observant.

7.  When people don’t want to be your friend or they don’t take the time to get to know you, don’t waste your time trying to be their friend.  Life is too short to waste your time on someone who could care less.  Move on!

  1. Do what you know is best for you.  March to the beat of your own drum and not anyone else’s.  Never follow the crowd.  Dare to be different.  What makes you so sure the crowd is going the right way?

9.  Never stay on a job that you hate with a passion.  Always do what you  love.  The love for what you do makes for a much happier and content person.

10.  People will be people, no matter what.  Treat everyone with respect no matter who they are, what they look like, what they believe and so forth and so on.

11.  Don’t take crap off of anyone allow anyone to mistreat you.  There is no reason why you should allow others to mistreat you or talk to you any way they please.  And that goes for in-person contacts as well as online contacts. This is not healthy for your body, mind or spirit.

Do you have any life lessons to share?  Feel free to comment or even post an article about your life lessons.

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  1. When people don’t want to be your friend or they don’t take the time to get to know you, don’t waste your time trying to be their friend. Life is too short to waste your time on someone who could care less. Move on!

    I love this quote I have tried making a lot of friends now I know that its about trying to make friends will never necessarily end up with a sweet friendship but let me try I have a better one

    First be yourself your best friends then you will figure out the rest who your best friends are.

  2. I couldn’t agree more with #7. I learned a while ago to stop wasting my energy on people who aren’t worth it.

    Someone’s inability to see/love/appreciate the true me is a reflection of them, not a flaw on my part.

    I’d also like to add:
    12) Stop using your age as a crutch.

    “I’m too old to…” “I would but I’m getting too old…”

    I’ve found that people often use this as a cop-out. The only thing that can limit you is <you!

    You’ll never be as young as you are now, so what are you waiting for?

    • Hi Kay,

      I totally agree with you about people using age as a crutch. I often hear people say they are too old to do such and such, but little do they know that they can’t do it because they keep saying they can’t do it. “The only thing that can limit you is <you!" Absolutely!

      Thank you for chiming in and sharing! 🙂

      Evelyn

  3. This is some good stuff! I like the idea, and may even try it @ my spot! I say Amen to points # 9 and # 5.

    Two of my important lessons:

    Sometimes Blessings are “retroactive.”
    When people show you who they are believe them.

    Thanks for this post!

  4. Awesome post Evelyn. Nice list …umm..now i know that you can never satisfy any human being. Well all the same life goes on!!! PS: am not happy with you!… Am sure you would be wondering why? Shoot me ur email so that we can solve the problem.

  5. Excellent post Evelyn! I particularly like #5. My hubby and I have been praying for wisdom to discern the people who come around us especially as we are involved in ministry.

    Enjoy your day!

    • Hey Jennifer,

      Good to see you! 😉

      Yeah, I think having more discernment really helps us avoid problems that can arise.

      I know it must be more of a challenge especially being involved in ministry. Always stay prayed up! 😉

      Thanks for stopping by and have a great day!

      Evelyn

  6. Evelyn,

    I really enjoyed your 31 things about me and this post! I am getting to know you fairly well, and I like that! You are so right about these 11 life lessons, I like not taking crap from others, that is so important but hard to do.

    Thanks for insightful read.

    Preeti

    • Hey Preeti,

      I’m glad you enjoyed the articles. Yeah, I’m finding that we have quite a bit in common. 😉

      It has been very hard for me to speak up and not take crap from people, but as I’ve gotten older, it has gotten a lot easier to express myself. But at times it is hard.

      Thanks for stopping by and enjoy your day!

      Evelyn

  7. Evelyn,

    This is a fantastic post. I love writing down life lessons. My favorite of this list is listen more and talk less. I have learned so much about listening.

    One of the biggest ones I’ve learned recently is to not become easily offended, either. It doesn’t do anyone any good.

    Quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry. It’s a great way to live life.

    Cheers,
    Tia

    • Hi Tia,

      Good to see you! 😉

      Thank you! 🙂

      Sometimes, I have to admit, I can get offended easily. That is something I have to constantly work on.

      Thanks for chiming in and sharing.

      Take care,

      Evelyn

  8. Hi Evelyn,
    I love this post. I wish your blog had been around when I was a teenager. Maybe it would have saved me some heartache. But I guess some lessons have to be learned the hard way. One important life lesson I leaned was that, no really does mean no! When you say no, you don’t have to explain yourself, or debate your position, or be guilted into saying yes. No dangit! Ah, there I feel better:) Thanks Evelyn!

    • Hi Dandy,

      I wish I knew this when I was a teenager too. But like you have said, some lessons have to be learned the hard way. Experience is truly the best teacher.

      Your life lesson is so true. I’m just now arriving to that point in my life where I can say no without feeling any guilt or need to explain why.

      I appreciate you sharing your life lesson. 😉

      Take care,

      Evelyn

  9. Hi Eveyln,

    Nice post! I agree we have to learn to talk less and listen more. The more we listen, the more we learn. 🙂 Thanks for sharing

  10. Dearest Evelyn, I loved every word here. Thank you for sharing these, so candid, so honest, so open, and so sharp and poignant. I loved them. You are indeed much wiser than me for one and I am going to remember your words. Something about that writing voice makes them very memorable. Thank so much for participating in this project!

    • Hi Farnoosh,

      I am humbled that you enjoyed the post. Your comment means so much to me. I do not have the words to express the way you have touched my spirit with your beautiful comment.

      I thoroughly enjoyed being a part of the project. I learned a valuable lesson about writing. 😉

      Take care and I wish you much continued success!

      Evelyn

  13. #4 and #10 will take you a long way in life.

    I concur!

    Glad Abubakar invited you, well done!

    • Hey Ms. Kissie!

      Thanks for stopping by and chiming in!

      I’m glad Abubakar invited me to, because it gave me a chance to share more. 😉

      Take care,

      Evelyn

  14. Hi Evelyn,

    Wonderful, wonderful advice here. #8 is on the money. Who thinks the crowd knows best? Does the crowd seem happy? Healthy? Wealthy? Why the heck would anybody want to follow them??

    I read your 31 things post. Powerful stuff! You’ve went through trials that few people have experienced in their lifetimes but what most would view as debilitating you turned to good.

    I would add to work on your mind more than anything else. It wasn’t until I devoted myself to mental science daily – meditation, visualization, affirmations, etc – that the real RB started to come out. I viewed myself how others viewed me until I worked on controlling my thoughts and feelings consistently.

    Thanks for sharing your real advice Evelyn 🙂 Have a powerful day!

    RB

    • Hey Ryan,

      Thanks for stopping by and chiming in!

      Working on the mind is very important. That’s where it all begins! 😉

      Take care and have a good evening!

      Evelyn

  15. Evelyn,

    Thank you for sharing with us these great lessons through participating in the Life Lessons Series.

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