dare to be different


Today, I’m sharing my thoughts about being different and standing out in a crowded space. I know it’s not a health-related topic, but I won’t always talk about healthy living topics.

These days, I share more about motivation and inspiration, and I decided I will write about whatever I want because I have to be me. You’ll learn more after reading further in this post.

This week, Jeff Goins published a blog post and podcast, sharing his thoughts about being successful (innovative) while being different. Jeff is an accomplished writer and author, and I started following him a few months ago.

Jeff shared many golden nuggets in his podcast, but after listening to his 53-minute podcast, I took to the keyboard to write.

self-careMitch of I’m Just Sharing is the inspiration for this blog post.  Sometimes he stops by my blog and leaves a comment. He commented on Letting Go of What Longer ServesMe Pays Off which made me think about how people who are caretakers need to incorporate self-care rituals.

How can a caretaker take time for self-care when they have to be there for a parent or child who needs them the most? Mitch has shared that he is the Caretaker of his Mother and so I hope he does not mind me mentioning it.

But Mitch has been there for is Mother, while most people who have siblings would have put their Mom in a nursing home, Mitch chose to take on the responsibility of caring for his Mom.

She is in good hands with him, and I know he probably gets tired, but he continues because he knows his Mother needs him. I commend you Mitch for all that you do for your Mother.

Today, I give you four simple ways to incorporate self-care in your life when you are a Caretaker.

I am Also a Caretaker

But before I do that I want you to know that, I am the caretaker of my daughter, with the help of my husband, who has Trisomy 21. Although she can do a lot on her own, there are a few things for which she needs assistance.

A typical child her age would not need their parents as much, but she does, and I am here for her. There are times when I do not take time for self-care which effects my attitude and outlook on life.

My key to having a great attitude and outlook on life is prayer and trusting God, and incorporating self-care rituals.

4 Ways to Incorporate Self-Care When You are a Caretaker

Although I am not an expert in the self-care arena, I can only tell you what I do and hopefully, you will find these tips helpful.

#1 Make a concerted effort for some quiet time.

As a caretaker, it is sometimes impossible to have time alone, but it is a must that you do this. Quiet time is excellent for relaxing and reflecting. I squeeze quiet time in when the time presents itself, and you can do the same. Be creative.

#2 Do something special for yourself.

It may be a challenge getting away, but if you can get someone to sit with your loved one, do it. You may want a few hours of pampering from someone other than yourself. Go for it, get that facial, body massage, manicure, pedicure, or haircut that you been postponing. Or you may want to treat yourself to your favorite restaurant. Do something that gives you joy.

#3 Take a leisurely walk.

Walking has many benefits, but going for a walk helps with clearing your mind and managing stress. When I can go for leisurely walks in my neighborhood, it connects me with nature. I love it because I can see the environment in its splendor. The sounds of nature are enough to calm my spirit.

#4 Sleep more, not less.

As caretakers we think that we can run on little to no sleep, not getting an adequate amount of rest creeps on you in subtle ways. Sometimes you will be irritated, fatigued without realizing that you only got 4-5 hours of sleep. Sleep is not just beneficial for the body, but it is good for the mind too. Do what you can to ensure you are getting enough sleep.

Final Words

Self-care is one of the most important acts of love to do for yourself. It is not a selfish act.

Take care of yourself, so you are the best Caretaker for your loved one.

Do not skimp on self-care. If you are not doing self-care rituals, start by doing one simple act at a time.

As long as you are doing something for yourself, it makes for a healthier, happier you.

You give your best to your loved one, but invest time in caring for yourself and in doing so, life is better for everyone.

Until next time,

Take care of you, and OWN IT

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know why

Are you frustrated because you are not getting the results you want? I know the feeling because I am currently working on a few things to improve myself and it is a slow go.

Although I want to quit, I know giving up is not an option. I discovered that the more I focus on the problem I am trying to solve, the less progress I make. Here are six reasons to focus on your why and not your problem.

Start with Your Why

Do you realize that knowing why you want to do something motivates you to keep working hard?

When we take the focus off of why it is easy for distractions to creep in, we get side-tracked.

The first thing we should do is know why we want to lose weight, make dietary changes, get fit, do self-care rituals, or be more positive.

Once we know why we are doing what we want to do, then it is always in the forefront of the mind

What we perceive as failure sometimes causes us to look more at the problem, which causes us to forget why we started in the first place.

Reasons to Focus on Your Why

Reason #1

Focusing on your why helps you with making progress. If you know why you are working out or making changes with your diet, then you are likely to stick with your program and not waver.

Reason #2

Knowing the why helps keep mental distractions at bay.

It is easy to feel bad because Susie is making tremendous progress, while we don’t feel like we’ve made it to second base. But don’t let the distraction of another person’s success cause you to focus on your problem. Focus on your why, and you’ll be fine.

Reason #3

Staying focused on why and not the problem helps you stay motivated.

When you know why you want to lose weight, you don’t mind cutting back on the sweets or being more physically active because you are motivated to see results. Besides, you feel great in the process too.

Reason #4

Focusing on your problem robs you of believing in yourself.

When you truly understand the benefits of making changes, and you see results, it creates a strong sense of believing in yourself. You realize that you can do this, so you keep going.

Reason #5

If you can see success, then you will achieve success.

Don’t worry about what you don’t see immediately happening in your life. As long as you can envision reaching your goals, you won’t have the time to focus on the problem. See it and believe it; success is yours.

Reason #6

Knowing your why won’t let you quit. Quitting is easy, your why is the power that keeps you going. Keep your mind off the problem especially if you want to succeed.

Stay focused on why you started; it gives you the strength and the will to journey on, even when you don’t think you can.

Until next time,

Take care of You, and OWN IT!